The Parent Ren, Part XII: Just Breathe

Sometimes, you just have to chill…

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The Parent Ren, Part X: It’s Harder Than It Looks

Some people will tell you that it’s easy to be a parent. They’re lying. It’s not easy to be a responsible parent, especially if you’re also trying to balance a career. You have to learn to let go of some things and embrace other things… Things like the unpredictable nature of a little person who is learning how to adapt to the world around them. It’s a big responsibility, but it comes with great reward, if you’re up to it.

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The Parent Ren, Part IX: Ren Returns… To Public Health

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Life is all about adjusting. From the moment you are born, you have to adjust to the world and people around you. WIth my new job come some big adjustments, and I find myself missing my baby girl a little more these days.

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The Man They Wanted Me To Be

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The idea of what a man should be like, or should be all about, has certainly changed over the years. It’s changed in my lifetime. But there are some ideas of manliness that are still out there, and they’re hurting men just as much as they hurt others. Growing up, the most macho of men in my extended family wanted me to be a certain way. I was lucky in that the men who counted let me be me. Now, it’s up to me to teach my daughter what being a man is all about, so that one day she can deal with men and — if she so chooses — can choose a man who’ll be her partner in achieving wonders.

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The Parent Ren, Part VIII: A Man Raising a Woman

When I think of how hard it must have been for my mother to raise me, I think of the one time we went to the state fair in Juarez. There was a band playing some very loud music, and there were a lot of people dancing and having a good time. Mom and I […]

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The Parent Ren, Part VI: It’s Okay to Flip Out

Let’s face it, unless you’ve been a parent before, there is very little that can prepare you for being a parent. I thought I was going to be ready for this adventure from helping mom raise my little brother 30 years ago. I must have lost something in those years, because there was very little […]

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