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The Honesty Project That Wasn’t
Posted on April 25, 2024 Leave a Comment
The blog post narrates a deeply personal story of a relationship breakdown. The narrator describes a dinner at a Chinese restaurant where his companion unexpectedly declares that she had intended to use him as an “honesty project” by being completely truthful with him. However, she reveals that she was unable to maintain this honesty because of her feelings for someone else, which she confesses during the meal. The conversation leads to a painful acknowledgment of unreciprocated feelings and mutual deception. The situation further complicates as their mutual friend later informs the narrator about the public disclosure of the incident within their friend circle. The post continues with various references to the narrator’s past experiences and relationships, hinting at a pattern of emotional distress and recovery, culminating in his current more stable life situation. Throughout, the post interweaves song lyrics that echo the emotional stages of the narrator’s reflections, emphasizing themes of disillusionment, acceptance, and moving on.
The weirdest 2023 ever
Posted on December 25, 2023
Another year is about over, and it’s time to do that thing I do where I look back on it and think of all the things I could have done differently, and how things would have worked out. Then again, if I could go back and change things, I wouldn’t. I can’t risk changing things […]
What exactly is my culture?
Posted on December 8, 2023
I’m doing some “homework” for work, reading What If I Say The Wrong Thing by Vernā A. Myers. One of the lessons in the book is about being culturally competent. The author describes an experience in China where locals gawked her at. She felt uneasy about it at first, but quickly learned about how gawking […]
Does Everyone Need To Know Everything?
Posted on November 14, 2023
Reflecting on the impact of social media, I share personal stories that highlight the need for finding balance in our digital lives. From navigating complicated relationships to protecting my child’s privacy, it’s a compelling exploration of the challenges we face in this age of constant connectivity.
The Parent Ren XV: Let’s Ride!
Posted on August 6, 2023
I share a personal story about teaching my daughter how to ride a bike. It was a challenging experience filled with tears and frustrations, but ultimately, she overcame her fear and learned to ride. I reflected on the influence of my own parents’ parenting styles on my own approach, and the importance of understanding and supporting our children’s emotional development.
You can’t change the past. And, even if you could, would you?
Posted on June 30, 2023
In this blog post, I reflect on past decisions and relationships, and wonder if I would change anything if given the chance. I explore different timelines and decisions that led to where I am today, and ultimately conclude that every choice, no matter how insignificant, played a role in shaping my life. While I may occasionally wonder what could have been if I had made different choices, I are content with where I am now and the person I have become.
It Was Worth It Just to Learn Some Sleight of Hand
Posted on June 2, 2023
I reflect on my experiences with falling for scams and the importance of learning to resist them. I discuss how con artists prey on loneliness and biases to gain confidence, and emphasize the need to teach people how to discern and resist scams as they grow up.
The Year Since
Posted on April 23, 2023
This blog post reflects on the passing of Andres one year ago, and the impact it has had on me and my family. I also discuss my father’s resilience, my anxiety about receiving bad news, and the difficulty of returning to the ancestral hometown. I also reflect on the prevalence of divorce in my social circle, and the importance of honesty and communication in my own marriage. The post concludes by acknowledging the ongoing pain of Andres’ loss and uncertainty of life.
The Update You Deserve
Posted on April 18, 2023
In this blog post, I reflect on my recent experiences in public health and the challenges of working with different personalities. I also discuss upcoming conferences and plans for a summer vacation. I note a trend of divorce among friends and acquaintances, but express gratitude for my own successful relationship and my daughter. The post concludes with a promise to write again soon.
Let’s Get Caught Up
Posted on April 25, 2022
Did you miss me? I know I haven’t been writing here as much as I should, but I have been writing. I’ve been writing over at Medium, and I’ve been trying — trying hard — to keep it professional. It has been hard to keep it professional with so many attacks on public health. From […]
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